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Dr. Ruth said: Don’t give up sex for Lent. Odds are you won’t last and then what’s the point. Choose something less directed by your hormones. This is the fifth of a six part series on Money & Sex, entitled “What’s Sex Got To Do With It”? I just finished watching an episode with “Sex and The City”….it was entitled “What’s Sex Got To Do With It”? I found it when I was researching my topic….how ironic. The episode was all about defining what sex and relationships mean to each one of us and the importance that has in our relationship to ourselves. We can have “mind-blowing sex”, however if there is no true connection sex does not fulfill us. What does sex have to do with our relationships? Love, sex and intimacy, the very things we should expect the most freedom with.
This is the fourth of a six part series on Money & Sex. This episode will be on the Neuroscience of Money and the Brain. What does the brain have to do with money?
DR. MAHA ALATTAR in her article: “Neuroscience Helps Explain How We Handle Money” wrote: “What role does your brain play in the pursuit and handling of money?
Your brain wants you to be safe and alive, so it makes you go after basic human needs like food, shelter, love and the safety of a social group, i.e., family. But when you want to make money—which often involves risk taking and calculating probabilities—your brain doesn’t necessarily feel safe.”
This is the third of a six part series on Money & Sex.
In this episode we will explore the topic “Sex and Intimacy Are They The Same? In the book “Think and Grow Rich”, Napoleon Hill states “Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires. When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times.
In this conversation about sex we will look at the power sex has in our relationships and how we can turn this power into something we can begin to experience as Hill has so eloquently put it….imagination, creativity and love.
The is the second of a 6 part series on Money & Sex….then segment is about
“Starting out Right with your Blended Family Estate Planning”
Every family is different, and blended families — defined as those with children from previous marriages or couplings included — can be even more difficult to plan for. When dealing with complicated family situations, cookie-cutter estate plans just don’t work!
Research shows that two of the top reasons for conflicts and divorce in marriage, cohabitation and relationships for that matter is money and sex, and communication is the third.
A 2010 study at the Program in Human Sexuality at the University of Minnesota Medical School in Minneapolis revealed that adults can’t agree what “sex” mean. Can you imagine that as adults we are still confused about what sex means? Of course there is more to the study and we will discuss this further.
Sex defined: feelings or behavior resulting from the urge to gratify the sexual instinct.
Money defined: a medium of exchange that functions as legal tender
There is nothing remotely similar or synonymous with these two words. However they hold tremendous power and control over our psyche. They cause wars, death, joy, happiness and they both impact people lives in ways that researchers, scientist and psychologist are attempting to understand.
This this is the final episode of a 7 part series discussing our basic human needs and how they relate to fulfilling relationships and marriage.
This series will be about “The Need For Sex”
Maslow’s Hierarchy of need biologically and physiologically places sex along with breathing, food and excretion. Sex is an essential need when it comes to procreation. Even Freud saw sex as one of the basic human drives (Id) in that it is crucial to the survival of the species.
As we move along the hierarchy and have each of our needs met we move to the level of sexual intimacy and how this is distinctly different from the basic need for sex. We will discuss some of the controversy around this need for sex. What was Maslow thinking?
This the 6th of a 7 part series discussing basic human needs and how they relate to fulfilling relationships and marriage. In this series we will discuss “The Need For Safety”
This is the 5th of a 7 part series discussing our basic human needs and how they relate to fulfilling relationships and marriage.
In this series we will discuss “The Need To Belong”.
Abraham Maslow suggested that the need to “belong” was a major source of human motivation. We all need to feel like we have a place where we belong, where we are important, where people care about us. We are not meant to be alone and we are not meant to be totally self-sufficient.
This is the 4th of a 7 part series discussing our basic human needs and how they relate to fulfilling relationships and marriage.
In this series we will discuss The Need For Understanding.
Changing Minds says: “If we understand the world around us, then we have a far greater chance of controlling it. Even if we cannot control it, we can make informed choices about what we might do next. The brain helps us do this, by giving us a little squirt of dopamine whenever we learn something, creating that satisfying ‘aha!’ or ‘eureka!’ experience.
When we lack understanding, we feel the extreme discomfort of confusion, which motivates us to gain understanding. This, perhaps, is one of the main driving forces that have led to the enormous developments of mankind”.
As so it is in our intimate relationships….we must feel understood and understand in order to thrive.
This is the third of a 7 part series discussing our basic human needs and how they relate to a fulfilling relationships and marriage.
This episode will focus on “The Need For Appreciation”.
“Only two groups of people thrive on sincere recognition and genuine appreciation — men and women. Reflecting on a life of pioneering work, the 19th century American philosopher and psychologist, William James, said, “I now perceive one immense omission in my psychology — the deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”
his is the second of a 7 part series discussing our basic human needs and how they relate to a fulfilling relationships and marriage.
This episode will focus on “The Need For Recognition”.
Peterman’s Eye says: “The ancient Greeks, who knew everything, called it thymos.
Plato described it as part of the soul comprising pride, indignation, shame and the need for recognition.
The Greeks understood, even before Freud, that the need for recognition originates in childhood, when a child does not feel valued. And if a child gets too much validation, they want more.”
We will explore what happens when we do not feel valued and what happens for us as adults when we do feel valued.
According to Businessball.com, “Abraham Maslow developed the Hierarchy of Needs model in 1940-50s USA, and the Hierarchy of Needs theory remains valid today for understanding human motivation, management training, and personal development”.
His theory contends that as humans meet ‘basic needs’, they seek to satisfy successively ‘higher needs’ that occupy a set hierarchy.
This will be a 7 part series discussing our basic human needs and how they relate to a fulfilling relationships and marriage.
As the year draws to an end I would like to dedicate this episode to clearing the slate….blending and mending our families can be challenging, however the rewards can be great.
In order for us to have a new beginning we must be willing to have closure to those “nasty” little things we hold on to.
In this episode we will explore the importance of endings so that we can begin anew.
This is the last of the four part series STAYING SANE FOR THE HOLIDAYS! Helping Blended Families Thrive
Stress, grief, sadness, anxiety, can all be words associated with the holiday season as well as joy, celebration, family, friends and loved ones.
Relationships are the main focus during the holiday season, whether positive or negative. Communication skills must be sharpened and kept at the forefront of our minds as we weave in and out of the blended family.
In this final series we will discuss how families can honor and respect each other as they learn a new way of relating…..the blended way….. through the eyes of a male family therapist.
This is the third of a four part series.
In this series we will look at the military family and the unique challenges it has for the children.
We will be introduced to a new term “TCK’s” Third Culture Kids. “Third culture kid is a term coined in the early 1950s by American sociologist and anthropologist Ruth Hill Useem “to refer to the children who accompany their parents into another society”. Other terms, such as trans-culture kid, are also used by some. More recently, American sociologist David Pollock developed the following description for third culture kids:
“A Third Culture Kid (TCK) is a person who has spent a significant part of [their] developmental years outside the parents’ culture. The TCK frequently builds relationships to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture may be assimilated into the TCK’s life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar background.”
This is the second part of a four part series.
In this series we will provide you with tools for supporting and assisting children to cope with the ever evolving blended family during the holiday’s.
The season is especially important for families with small children because of the significant opportunities for parents to create positive lifelong memories for their children. Our series will address how to create new family traditions.
This is the first of a 4 part series that will address blended families and the holidays.
“According to the Stepfamily Association of America, it takes on average of four to seven years for its adult and child members to feel safe and comfortable within a new blended family.”
The holiday season can be very stressful time for any family and the second time around family will have twice as much stress. These families are dealing with unique issues that can include: unresolved conflicts, co-parenting, step-parents, divided loyalties, grief, depression and children trying to adjust to a new family system.
Since 82% of new blended family parents say “we don’t know where to turn to for help”, it is my intention that this series will provide support and tools for the second time around family. Helping these families thrive and create a new legacy.
We can be however; the season can be accompanied by significant fatigue, stress, worry, anxiety, loneliness and even depression. People who have suffered the loss of loved ones, especially during the previous year, experience increased sadness during the holidays. Studies show that some people suffer from seasonal affective disorder (SAD), which results from being exposed to fewer hours of sunlight as the days grow shorter during the winter months.
Your Love Doctor Lorraine and her husband Rev. Roland Nowell will discuss how they met and navigated through, one two three marriages.
Your Love Doctor will speak to the challenges she faced as a women being married multiple times and Rev. Nowell will share how his first marriage wounding had to be healed in order for him to move on to find the love of his life.
Our guest Dr. Paulette Bethel, retired Army Major will share her professional and personal experience as a military wife, officer, and mother. Dr. Bethel will offer us her expertise, knowledge and wisdom on how to avoid the pitfalls of a second marriage and how remarriage can be be successful and blissful.
